Moving from Self-Awareness to Self-Management to Self-Improvement

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Moving from Self-Awareness to Self-Management to Self-Improvement

Why quit smoking is so difficult although most smokers are aware of its impact on health and well-being? Why we keep doing things that we know may not be appropriate or helpful? This is because knowing and doing are different.
Doing something is much harder than knowing the same thing. In the workplace, we are educated to increase our self-awareness, know our strengths, weaknesses, feelings, thoughts, and values. But that is not enough. Self-awareness is useless, unless it is accompanies by actions of self-management, which is another important skill and domain of emotional intelligence.

What is Self-management? Definition

Jennifer Porter (2019) identifies self-management as "a conscious choice to resist a preference or habit and show a more productive behaviour" and suggests a 4-step process on self-management:

1. BE MORE PRESENT: Pay attention to what you are saying and doing now.
2. PRACTICE SELF-AWARENESS: Recognize what is happening around you—what are you seeing, hearing, feeling, and considering.
3. IDENTIFY A RANGE OF BEHAVIORAL CHOICES—what actions can you take next and the consequences of each action.
4. CHOOSE the behavior that is believed to generate the best outcome.

Improving your self-management

Self-management (choosing the most productive behaviour) takes work. As a human, we feel more comfortable when we default to an old habit than to spend energy in creating a new one. However, self-management still can be learnt with the following steps:

1. Decide what to manage. Identify in what situation our current approach does not work as expected and self-management might help.
2. Identify the driver of our lack of self-management. Consider why we do that instead of choosing the most productive action in a situation. This step is crucial to changing our behaviours.
3. Consider our choices and the reactions to these choices. Imagine we are self-managing, what can we do? What are our reactions to the options? And what are we trying to avoid when we default to a habit or preference?
4. Plan and practice. Now we know what needs to change in our behaviours, think of steps we can take and practice until we can consistently manage that behaviour. Meanwhile, notice our reactions to the practice and fine-tune our actions.
5. Repeat the process. We will be able to learn more about how we are operating and how we can improve in each successive iteration.

It is natural for us to act in ways that feel good and familiar, but if we did this all the time, we would never get better at anything. Following the process summarised above will help us move from self-awareness to self-management and as a result become more effective.

Source: Porter, J., 2019. How to Move from Self-Awareness to Self-Improvement. HBR, Winter 2019, pp.37-38.

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		1 Tom Wilson HR Consultant, United States
	Thinking Outside the Box, Revisited This article needs to be considered within the context of Chloe Xu's Learning as a Method to Cope with Work-Related Stress. My personal sense is that there is a third article that pulls these two structures together. Before you can think outside the box, you need to be able to survey the nature of the box, which is where the Learning function establishes the pathway to self-management. In fact, Learning is an exercise in Self-Management and is the basis for the command of the box that will convert stress to a constructive projection of personal autonomy. When you understand how it works, the box becomes a surf board for riding the wave of the dynamics of the task environment. You have a third article here, the triangulation of learning with self-management and (dimension to be named).

		2 Gandhi Heryanto Management Consultant, Indonesia
	The Role of Standards and Values in Self-Management and Self_Improvement I refer to Duval & Wicklund's Theory of Self-Awareness, 1972, namely that "you are not your thoughts, but the entity observing your thoughts"; you are the thinker, separate and apart from your thoughts. We act or behave without thinking about ourselves, only thinking and feeling and acting at will. On the other hand, we are also capable of self-evaluation, which is to focus our attention on our inner selves. When we do self-evaluation, we can think about whether we think and feel and act the way we "should" or live up to our standards and values. This is called: comparing with our standards of truth. These standards or values ​​are what we perceive as the truth of our thoughts and behaviors. Using these standards and values as a component of practicing self-management, we may evaluate and determine whether we are making the right choices to achieve our goals. Self-management, also referred to as "self-control" or "self-regulation," is the ability of a person to effectively regulate his/her emotions, thoughts and behavior in different situations according to the standards and values ​​she/he perceives to be true.

		0 sorina bradea
	What's in it for Me? Most people when it comes to growing and developing because their company is asking them to do it, are asking the question: What's in it for me? How can I use what I learnt in my personal life? In my opinion, Self-Improvement starts with Being aware of the need of... self-improvement! If there are no standards (either set by the person or by the company) to compare and someone does not have the drive or curiosity to just Grow, that person will be forever in the comfort zone of being... perfect. In companies where the performance management system is poorly implemented or does not exist, it is very difficult to convince the employees that they need to develop and that it is them who are the main responsible for their own Growth! In personal life, we all have many goals, desires, expectations... Still we need to also have a FOCUS to get where we want to be. And, as Daniel Goleman said, we have to learn the Focus in our childhood. Because we can not Self-Improve without being focused!

		1 Maurice Hogarth Consultant, United Kingdom
	The Self in Decision Making and Taking Chloe, in your opening sentences you note the difficulty of actually giving up smoking. This represents the difference between making a decision ("I have decided to quit smoking") and then taking tha...